HAIR!!!

Ever since I can remember, I have been addicted to hair. My hair, your hair, relaxed hair, natural hair, locks, YOU NAME IT! As a little girl, I had your typical braids and beads, pony-tails with the different color balls and barrettes, and on special occasions my mom would allow me to wear to pressed. At the tender age of five my mother decided give me a relaxer i.e "perm." From the age of 5-17 I was HOOKED! The feeling of new growth disgusted me and I craved to make my hairdresser relax my hair every 12 weeks.

After twelve years of relaxing my hair, I had an epiphany. While reading the Autobiography of Malcolm X I came to the conclusion that growing out my relaxer would be a good decision. It took me approximately one year to grow out my hair. This has been the best decision that I have ever made in my whole entire life. I finally feel liberated. I have realized that my self-esteem is higher and I am more accepting to my natural state of being a black woman. This might sound a little over the top, but life is actually better without a relaxer. A black woman's hair is her crown and glory. When there is a satisfaction with your hair, it feels as if your entire life is going great! I mean come, ladies, how do you feel when ever you leave the hair dresser? You feel GREAT!! I can finally say that i have that feeling everyday. I highly recommend going natural to every black woman :)

Quotes that have helped me and might help you also

"When women come into agreement, the world becomes so sweet." K. Williams

Oh, that you would bless me indeed and in large my territory! Let your hand be with me, and keep me from harm so that I will be free from pain."- I Chronicles 4:10

"My alma mater was books, a good library. I could spend the rest of my life reading, just satisfying my curiosity."- Malcolm X

"You have to learn how to go to God by yourself"- Bishop Couzens

"The only way 2 learn Faith is 2b able 2 still have Faith when everything around says you shouldnt. Thats REAL Faith!"

"I gather up each sound you left behind and stretch them on our bed. Each night I breathe you and become high"

"You can change your mind at anytime. Its never too late to follow your Heart."

"I love all black women, just ignore me as I break my neck to talk to that light skinned girl with the long hair."

"It's easy 2 tell u ur beautiful wen ur Half naked on profile pic.. Thats why i choose not 2 be the Average Nigga"- A guy on facebook

"People treat you the way you teach them to. Don't blame them, train them with love, compassion and self-esteem!"

"God loves us so much that he allows us to hit rock bottom and become spiritually bankrupt. In the end, our connection to Christ is so great that we return to The Father!"

Black Churches and Homosexuality

The black church is a difficult subject to speak on. Right now, I am watching The Tyra Show where a young boy experienced an exorcism in order to rid himself of the homosexual spirit. I am a christian and I believe that God views ALL sin as the same. The preacher that performed the exorcist does not believe in being gay. She says that she travels through the realm of spirits and is persecuted because she speaks the truth. She also states that she kicked out thirty church members because they were sinning!! WHAT THE HECK?!?! She goes on to say that she does not hang out with sinners. My opinion about this is that we all fall short of the glory of God. Who are we as humans to judge others and say what is wrong and right in the eyes of the Lord!!! IT'S NOT RIGHT!! Now, I don't know much about exorcism but I do not know if A HUMAN can deliver someone from sin. If someone is sinning it is not our responsibility to judge and heal others. Only God can deliver people from sin.

Homosexuality is a very a sensitive subject for me because I have family members and close friends who are gay. As a black woman I embrace the homosexual community mainly because believe that they are people and should not be shunned away from society. Also because black women have the highest statistics for contracting the HIV/AIDS virus. When we hate the homosexual community it causes them to hide their true feelings and to ultimately become apart of "the down low." The down low then endangers MY health!!! BLACK WOMEN ARE THE VICTIMS FROM THIS HATE!

No sin is greater than the other. Black churches are so caught up in homosexuality that we are neglecting to love one another. There has been constant talk about homosexuality in the black church. I understand that this topic is important but there are other topics that can be explored from the perspective of the Christian faith? Why is it that we are not addressing women having children out of marriage, suicide, money, the love of God, his mercy, depression, being a good disciple, loving one other, and living a life that is pleasing to the Lord? This does not make sense....

Lastly, YOU ARE NOT GOING TO HELL BECAUSE YOU ARE GAY!!! People go to hell because they did not accept Jesus as the Lord and savior.....

A nice excerpt from one of my favorite movies, 'Love Jones"

Say, baby... can I be Your slave? I've got to admit girl you're the shit girl... and I'm digging you like a grave. Now, do they call you Daughter to the Spinning Pulsar... or maybe Queen of 10,000 moons? Sister to the Distant yet Rising Star? Is your name Yemaya? Oh, hell no. Its got to be Oshun. Oooh, is that a smile me put on your face, child... wide as a field of jasmine and clover? Talk that talk, honey. Walk that walk, money. High on legs that'll spite Jehovah. Shit. Who am I? It's not important. But me they call me brother to the night. And right now... I'm the blues in yourleft thigh... trying to become the funk in your right. Who am I? I'll be whoever you say? But right now I'm the sight-raped hunter... blindly pursuing you as my prey. And I just want to give you injections... of sublime erections... and get you to dance to my rhythm... make you dream archetypes... of black angels in flight... upon wings of distorted, contorted... metaphoric jizm. Come on slim. Fuck your man. I ain't worried about him. It's you who I want to step to my scene. 'cause rather the deal with the fallacy... of this dry-ass reality... I'd rather dance and romance your sweet ass in a wet dream. Who am I? Well, they call me Brother to the night. And right now I'm the blues in your left thigh... trying to become the funk in your right. Is that all right?

Childhood

So right now I am watching the one and only Spike Lee movie, Crooklyn. I have concluded that the one reason why I enjoy this movie so much is because it allows me to reminisce over the times when I was a child. Childhood is an inevitable point in a person's life where they learn about values, the beauty of being content with life, knowing the importance of happiness and an enjoyable life. My personal childhood was phenomenal! I experienced every type of childhood experience known to man! Here are a few activities that i participated in: double dutch, sledding, T-ball, football, kickball, hop scotch, four square, hide-and-go-seek, freeze tag, playing house, arguing over who's going to be disher, playing with barbies, ice-skating, Disney world, AND THE LIST GOES ON!

Children now are caught up with the whole play station situation and are being deprived of a true enjoyable childhood. I have vowed to myself that my children will play out side and be heavily involved in children activities!